(Actually it is Michelle and inherently human)
Will my Blog guarantee you a partner or make you successful in a relationship? Hell no, that is your responsibility. Anyone making such promises is talking out of their backside. The intention here is to reduce the perils of pre-dating and dating as I dish out a wealth of information, some through direct experiences (presented in red type) and some through observation of human nature , and of course all of it through life as a tutor in all it's guises.
As much as I will aim to portray a balanced view, suitable for males and females, I hereby highlight my natural gender bias for I am female and date males. Perhaps it would do the male species of the human race some good to get a female perspective of dating (and the essential pre-dating), and also gain knowledge of what we girls actually have to put up with. Gender bias aside, the practical tips will have benefits for all.
As much as I will aim to portray a balanced view, suitable for males and females, I hereby highlight my natural gender bias for I am female and date males. Perhaps it would do the male species of the human race some good to get a female perspective of dating (and the essential pre-dating), and also gain knowledge of what we girls actually have to put up with. Gender bias aside, the practical tips will have benefits for all.
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| older and wiser 2012 |
I finally became an independent adult of the 21st century. It is this adult who would like to amuse those of you who already use the common sense approach to dating, and enlighten those coming to it for the first or subsequent times, and need a little guidance.
First Things First
YOU!
How many of you go from one relationship to another, or even from one bed to another? You crave intimacy, a sense of belonging and a connection, but do you want it with one or with many? Do you feel your life is incomplete without another or significant other? Do you even know what you want or need?
Questions, questions, questions. Time will answer these and more. In the meantime there is nothing wrong with using dating as an aid to discovering what you want AND discovering you, for different people will bring out different facets of you. Enjoy the journey but enjoy it safely.
Time will not only start to answer your questions (if you are ready to listen) but also help you learn that it is futile to seek out another to fill in the gaps of your life. If you are not whole and are needy, the chances are that you will meet someone who fulfils your needs at this particular time, as you do theirs. However when you do evolve, the dynamics of that relationship will change and you may outgrow each other, this could cause a relationship breakdown. Go to my Bibliography page for information on codependency.
Now think of yourself as that evolved member of society. You do not need someone to make you whole but nevertheless you would like another person to come along and complement you and your life, as you would them. Think of beef, how wonderfully succulent and tasty it is alone, but complement it with horseradish (or some other preferred sauce) and it tastes out-of-this-world.
Yes I am telling you that one day you could find your horse radish. As for vegetarians or vegans, I am thinking roasted cashew nuts and salt.
Questions, questions, questions. Time will answer these and more. In the meantime there is nothing wrong with using dating as an aid to discovering what you want AND discovering you, for different people will bring out different facets of you. Enjoy the journey but enjoy it safely.
Time will not only start to answer your questions (if you are ready to listen) but also help you learn that it is futile to seek out another to fill in the gaps of your life. If you are not whole and are needy, the chances are that you will meet someone who fulfils your needs at this particular time, as you do theirs. However when you do evolve, the dynamics of that relationship will change and you may outgrow each other, this could cause a relationship breakdown. Go to my Bibliography page for information on codependency.
Now think of yourself as that evolved member of society. You do not need someone to make you whole but nevertheless you would like another person to come along and complement you and your life, as you would them. Think of beef, how wonderfully succulent and tasty it is alone, but complement it with horseradish (or some other preferred sauce) and it tastes out-of-this-world.
Yes I am telling you that one day you could find your horse radish. As for vegetarians or vegans, I am thinking roasted cashew nuts and salt.
*Devi: comes from the Sanskrit root word of divine, the female aspect, Goddess.
How much of this is your material and how much from other people?
ReplyDeleteAll of my Blog states where the experiences are direct or through a third person, and maintains a personal stance. I am against plaigerism. You will not find terms such as pre-dating player and e-notch elsewhere as they my "creations".
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